Transitions are sad from the viewpoint of the attached person. We want everyone we love to live long lives but not everyone’s purpose is a long one. That feeling of having no control over the transition time of those we are attached to is where all the fear, and upset comes from. Find solace in this; when the purpose of a persons life in their body has been met, they will transition, so will you. No one is in control of the length of their purpose and the time allotted to complete it. And no one knows the true purpose of a human spirit, it could be a few hours, a few years, or 100+ years. So why fear? Your time here is predicated upon the time it takes you to complete your purpose. So while you are here; add value, spread love, spread peace, so that upon transition you leave behind light.

The choices we make are a direct reflection of the life we live. Our clients are always inquiring about Image enhancing shortcuts and our answer is always the same. Make choices you'll be proud of and change your life. Its when we feel good about our choices that others are attracted to. People are ultimately attracted to people who make responsible choices although they enjoy hanging out with those who don't short term. The best thing you can do for yourself is make choices that are healthy, and responsible, which requires developing a certain level of self control and focus. It also requires you to become accountable and remove the excuses you've been telling yourself for so long. Easier said than done, but it can be done. When it comes to choices, etiquette is a choice you should always consider in your daily life. Using proper etiquette can help you achieve personal and professional success. A person who exhibits good etiquette will forge more long lasting friendships and be offered more opportunities than someone who does not. I was called in to help a client to rebuild his reputation after she made the wrong choices as it relates to how he treated someone, this behavior backfired as the person who he spoke to rudely became the VP of the company from being the PA. When the person who was mistreated as a PA became VP he did not renew my clients contract. Furthermore he was in a position to reach out to other networks to warn them that my client was rude. Have you ever treated someone badly to live to regret it? It happens everyday. So be careful how you treat people. Everyone is important.

International Dining Etiquette: At Poise and Punctilio we are all about expanding the minds of our student, clients, and supporters, by not only proving etiquette training but a glimpse into different cultures to help you explore the world and try new things. Today we are talking about dining in Ethiopia. Dining in Ethiopia or at an Ethiopian restaurant is a very relaxing culinary experience shared with friends and family. Ethiopian cuisine is strong, spicy, and rich in stews that are mouth watering and delicious. . First rule is wash your hands because your hands more specifically your right hand will be your dining utensil, so there are no utensils to worry about. Often times a basin filled with water will be brought out before and after your meal. Use your right hand only, your left hand should not be seen, it is considered unclean. You will get use to it quickly with a bit of practice. Don’t try to be Danty ladies, it’s impossible, get in and enjoy the meal don’t worry about trying to be cute. When eating injera with friends or family, use your right hand to strip off a piece, wrap it around some meat or curry and feel free to feed a friend. In Ethiopian culture feeding others and being fed by others is a compliment and should be taken graciously. For more tips on international dining, visit us on our website. We look forward to continuing to share the gift of civility and the power of etiquette. By:Zakiyyah Shakir Founder of Poise and Punctilio .

Before you begin the interview, we want to know a little about who you are. Please share with us a little about yourself that you don't mind sharing with the world. I'm the daughter and granddaughter of preachers, I hail originally from the island of Jamaica. For more than a decade I have worked in Corporate and Non-Profit Events Management, being mindful of achieving each event's objective while achieving beautiful guest experiences. I enjoy music of multiple genres, travel, and learning about cultures. Currently a Masters degree student at the Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, I am an ordained minister, and faithfully serve in various capacities in my local church. Who is someone (living or dead) that you feel embodies/embodied outstanding etiquette ? There are actually two women who I currently work with who embody etiquette and grace well! One is the same age as I am, and the other is under 30 years old. What skills or attributes must come naturally, or be inherent to a woman ? A nurturing heart. Whether she has a child or not, there are a myriad of ways that a woman's innate ability to nurture those around her will be evident. What is one thing you learned later in life, that you wish you were taught sooner? The importance of proper undergarments to complete your outfit. I grew up knowing that a lady wears a slip, but not much else was taught. Finish the statement; In today's modern world it is important to... ...present the best version of you. What is the best etiquette advice you have ever received? Speak up! I naturally can be a soft speaker, robbing my audience of the opportunity to clearly hear what I am communicating, so being told to speak up has been valuable in more ways than one. Do you think today’s woman is concerned enough with, or prioritizing learning etiquette and social graces appropriately? Unfortunately, no. There has been a concerted effort in our society to shift our focus on a doctored body, a filtered life, and a never-ending hustle to "get coins". Do you believe there is power in femininity? If so why? Absolutely, a room shifts when a confident woman walks in. Imagine the influence she could exact were she aware of her power. Share one beauty secret and one style tip with us that works for you. Go with what works for you, and don't be afraid to switch it up. How does etiquette influence confidence? There is nothing that undermines ones ability to confidently exist in all rooms and at all tables than having to second guess their own behavior or speech. Knowing that you are correct in how you enter and hold space in a room should be one less thing to be anxious about as you go from day to day. Please share with us your favorite quote. I don't have a favorite quote, but I am guided in life by the biblical passage from Philippians 2:3-4. What is one vintage rule of etiquette or decorum that young women can benefit from today? Avoid being loud or coarse; you would be surprised how a woman is perceived by the volume and tone of her voice. We appreciate Camille for taking the time to interview with us, and we hope this interview has inspired you in some way. At Poise and Punctilio we try our best to give our youth positive role models to be inspired by. We are grateful for the support; as we continue to share the gift of civility and the power of etiquette with children, teens, adults, and corporations locally and internationally.

Peerless Etiquette had the distinct pleasure of an interview with actor/model De'Anne, who we believe is a positive role model to young ladies. De'Anne is a wife, mother, and model who is kind, humble, and supportive. The complete antithesis of what the media portrays models to be. She thinks before she speaks, speaks with an intention to connect, and has an overall warmth to her personality. She supports other models in the industry and creates thought provoking conversation in her Forum Empowered Minds to help women live their best life. We are glad to share her interview in hopes that it will inspire you. Who is someone (living or dead) that you feel embodies/embodied outstanding etiquette ? My Mom, but other than Mom, I would have to say Cicely Tyson What skills or attributes must come naturally, or be inherent to a woman ? Perseverance, Nurturing, and vulnerability What is one thing you learned later in life, that you wish you were taught sooner? Vulnerability is a strength Finish the statement; In today's modern world it is important to... Always stick to your moral compass, because things are always changing and growing stay true to who you are. What is the best etiquette advice you have ever received? Grace never goes of a style so always be gracious. Do you think today’s woman is concerned enough with, or prioritizing learning etiquette and social graces appropriately? I don't think today's women are... Do you believe there is power in femininity? If so why? Yes I do. I think there is power in the way women lead, nurture, and bond in sisterhood Share one beauty secret and one style tip with us that works for you. Be consistent with your skin routine, your skin is the first thing people see. Make sure you drink lots of water, staying hydrated is very important. When it comes to fashion, if you don't love it don't wear it. How does poise and comfort with etiquette influence confidence? I think etiquette can make you more confident about how you carry yourself and the decisions you make. Because you know what's appropriate so you can focus on being in the moment. Please share with us your favorite quote. “you have to believe in yourself when no one else does that's what makes you a winner”- Venus Williams What is one vintage rule of etiquette or decorum that young women can benefit from today? You should have at least one outfit that fits you perfectly if you don't, get it tailored to fit you. When you are dressed in something that was tailored to you you feel better and exude more confidence. Share the name of a book, and author that you believe will inspire a young lady to become a better version of herself...(no limit to the amount of books you list) The Confidence Code, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, You Inc., The Power of Positive Thinking, Pivot: The Art and Science of Reinventing your life and Career

As you began the New Year, many of you are setting New Year Resolutions to improve upon yourself, your family or your career. When you think about self improvement, and weigh the growth needed for the next faze of your journey; I invite you to think about the impressions you are making along the way. The biggest fight we will ever have is the fight within ourselves, to commit to building our charter and integrity, as much as our appearance. Let’s dig into a new year resolution you might not have given much thought to, which could be the one thing you need to improve upon to support all your other goals this year. Here are a few questions I ask my clients, and young people who take part in etiquette and civility training courses, they are not easy questions for many to answer because they normally reveal character flaws that we ignore from year to year, that can wreak havoc on our relationships personally and professionally. Answer honestly, no one is judging you, and you don’t have to reveal your scores. Keep in mind that the number you get at the end is only a marker for you to know where you are currently and to make improvements. If your number is in the single digits at the end, you are on the right track, if your number is in the double digits, you have some work to do and that is ok, it's about growth not perfection. 1. How many lies did you tell in 2019? Only you will know the answer to this question, and when I speak about lies, I mean white lies, and bold elaborate stories made up from the depths of your imagination. 2. How many times were you late in 2019? I’m talking about late to work, late to family functions, late coming home from work, late to interviews, late to meetings, and even late to outings with friends. 3. How many times did you gossip about another person last year? It could be that you have laughs about a person you knew or didn’t know. Gossip is anything negative that breaks down another person when they are not around. It can be simple as poking fun at someones hair style. 4. How many times have you failed to follow up with work or a business lead? Often times in business, people burn out and simply lose momentum of getting things done, keeping this in check is a sure way to boost your success level professionally. 5. How many times have you decided not to like something on social media that you were inspired by? This is a big one in the social media world. You ever notice how YouTube videos have a million views and only 1000 likes? Have you ever been motivated by something but decided against liking it because you might be jealous? If so how many times? 6. How many times have you visited an upscale restaurant or event and felt a bit nervous about the etiquette required of you, so instead you pretended to know but felt uncomfortable most of the time? 7. How many times have you friends requested people on social media you had no intention of truly connecting with or actively supporting? 8. How many times last year did you decide to buy things of no value and ignore your bills, then lie to your bill collectors to get an extension? 9. How many times last year did you withhold a compliment from someone? 10.How many times last year did you discriminate against someone based on their race, religion, sex, or appearance? Bonus Question 11. How many times during this test, did you write down less than the real number because the true number embarrassed you? By: Zakiyyah Shakir Founder of Poise and Punctilio

Peerless Etiquette is proud to introduce; Mindset Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Author - Rickie Burney who took time out of his busy Holiday schedule to share some words of encouragement and wisdom for young men to become a better version of themselves. Often times we view etiquette and civility as something to fear as it's been painted with a brush of stuffiness and strict rules of behavior. Our mission is to make etiquette and civility a way of life for everyone especially our youth. We appreciate Rickie for leaving footprints of civility for young men to follow. Who is someone (living or dead) that you feel embodies/embodied outstanding etiquette ? It may sound cliché, but I feel that Barack Obama is the epitome of etiquette. It's not so much his style as much as it is his entire demeanor. He embodies integrity, and most of all dedication to his commitments. He is assertive yet diplomatic in his delivery, a characteristic necessary to navigate numerous environments. What skills or attributes must come naturally, or be inherent to a man? Natural attributes include being a protector. Whether that is physically, mentally, or emotionally, a man should always be in tune to his surrounding to detect any danger to himself or his family. Naturally, a man should also express resilience. The strength of a man isn't measured in how many times he falls, but how many times he picks himself up. For this shows his ability to cover his home in the time of storms. What is one thing you learned later in life, that you wish you were taught sooner? I wish I was taught sooner the importance of embracing individuality. So many of our men get caught up following behind bad examples. It's important for them to know that it's OK to stand alone when your values are at stake. List three ways a young man can show his respect for a young lady. Always view her from the lens of a companion, not a conquest. Although she is a prize, she is not to be managed as a trophy. Get to know the person behind the appearance. Respect her right to have total control of her mind, body, and spirit. Your interest in her does not equate to entitlement to get. Always be honest with her even if it hurts, but also always exert tact in your delivery. The key is to build respect instead of resentment between young men and women. What is the best etiquette advice you have ever received? Simple yet powerful advice. Present yourself how you want to be received. We can't expect others to see something of us that we don't show. Do you think modern men are prioritizing learning etiquette and social graces appropriately? I think that because we have had attacks on the family structure, many modern men have struggled in this area. However, I do believe there is a rising population of men and women who are ready to break the generational curses and lead our young men back to true etiquette. Do you believe there is power in developing social skills? If so why? I believe developing social skills are the most vital part of our survival. Part of the reason some men struggle with anger and aggression is that they have not been taught how to communicate effectively with their words. Solutions are possible when you can properly articulate your frustration or concerns or humble yourself and ask for help. Share one grooming tip and one style tip with a young man that works for you. Your cologne should never overpower your presence. Subtlety always makes a more powerful statement. Style tip: Find attire that compliments your personality but challenges your boundaries. You always want to be comfortable in your ensemble, but you also want your style to evolve over time. Maybe select a checkered pattern shirt instead of a solid one. Do something that opens your mind to new ways to elevate your style. How does poise and comfort with punctilio influence confidence? Our exterior many time reflect how we feel on the interior. When we look good, we feel better about ourselves as well. Many people don't realize they are a diamond in the rough. When they get exposure to what is truly possible, it helps to increase confidence in self. Please share with us your favorite quote. "Trials in life will inflict wounds. We choose how we wear the scars"-Ricky Burney What is one vintage rule of etiquette or decorum that young man can benefit from today? Anything involving chivalry, especially holding doors and pulling out chairs. Part of the resistance women have involve them not feeling valued. If we instill these small habits, they could lead to massive changes in the dynamics between the sexism Share the name of a book, and author that you believe will inspire a young man to become a better version of himself. Hill Harper-THE wealth cure,

Being gracious and accepting gifts always, never turn down a gift that someone took the time to give you. However, there are times when some gifts are not what you need, want, or desire to keep. In this case re gifting a gift is OK, but use caution. 1. Say thank you and re gift those sweets. During the Holiday Season sweets are overwhelmingly present all around you and you'd like to hang on to your post holiday waistline but the gifts of sweets just keep oncoming in. Let Poise and Punctilio give you a few tips on declining sweets this holiday season. Being gracious and accepting gifts of sweets from well meaning giver is the polite thing to do. Say thank you, accept the gift but it's OK to re gift it. But just be sure to check for personalized cards on the gift before you do. Also make sure the person you re gift to isn't someone that knows the original gift giver. 2. Accept the gift and share. Your next door neighbor baked you a pie and you are not interested in the calories, accept the gift graciously as they have taken the time to bake for you which means they thought about you for hours while doing it. However you are not interested in eating a whole pie, so take the pie to a holiday party you're on the way to and share the pie with everyone, add it to the buffet and say goodbye to consuming all those calories alone. 3. Accept and Donate Accept the gift and donate to the nearest shelter to make their meal more special. Nothing says Happy Holidays more than giving to those who need it most, this goes for any gift that you have received that you do not need, give it to someone who does.

It's that time of year again and the party invitations are beginning to role in, along with a bit of holiday anxiety.The Holidays can be a stressful time of year; so many things to do and people to see. It's important to make sure you are more poised than panicked to get through the end of the year with grace. Today we are sharing with you five etiquette tips for the holidays. 1. Answer invitations a timely manner That's right, answer all invitations in a timely manner as everyone's under a modicum of stress to make sure things are ship shape for the holidays. Late replies to invitations makes the host/hostesses job all the more stressful. So answer all invitations within 48 hours of receiving them. Do not just show up! 2. Show up to the party with a gift in hand. If you are an invited guest, a host/hostess gift during the holidays and anytime for that matter is required. Steer clear of flowers, flowers would require the host to break away to arrange them and find water for them. Stick to gifts like a nice bottle of wine, but when you gift it, let them know it's for their personal collection so they don't feel pressured to serve it right then. Another good gift is a box of chocolate, or a gift card to their favorite place. 3. Show up on time Now is not the time to be fashionably late, a dinner party means the host has planned the menu and would like everyone to eat together at one time. Late arrivals add another layer of stress for dinner guest who now feel obliged not to move onto the next course because you are on a different course. Keep in mind that some host are strict and will serve you the course they are on if you're late. Lastly, arrive on time to avoid the host being interrupted from the conversation and the other guest to get you settled in. Do us all a favor and arrive on time. 4. Converse with the person on your right and to your left, and the person directly across from you. Not the persona t the other end of the table. When you are invited to a dinner party, the conversation during the meal is the most rewarding part of the occasion, don't sit quietly and eat your food, engage with other guest and add to the flow of the conversation, but by all means do not be a conversational narcissist; do not take the conversation hostage, let it flow keep it appropriate avoid religion, politics, rhetoric, and gossip. 5. Don't forget the thank you card You have exactly 48hours to send a hand written thank you card to the host with a small gift. Host go through a lot to get a dinner party just right, and afterwards they stay up cleaning up behind guest, a thank you card is the least you can do. If you can do all of the above, you will always be a welcomed guest at any party. By: Zakiyyah Shakir

At Peerless Etiquette we want to inspire young ladies and young men to live a life of civility and kindness wherever they go. We want our young people to know that etiquette and proper behavior is cool, that there is power in civility and etiquette that opens doors of opportunity to help forge more meaningful relationships. We caught up with Public Relations Specialist and marketing Consultant Brandi Hoffman, to ask her a few questions. Hopefully her answers to our questions will inspire you in some way. Who is someone (living or dead) that you feel embodies/embodied outstanding etiquette ? My great grandmother, she was very poised. What skills or attributes must come naturally, or be inherent to a woman ? Self-control, poise, elegance, eloquence, proper attire for specific occasions. What is one thing you learned later in life, that you wish you were taught sooner? To value the gifts that God had given me, regardless of how others viewed them. Finish the statement; In today's modern world it is important to... Remain classy; women are getting to far from traditional morals and values and it’s ruining our society and how males view us. What is the best etiquette advice you have ever received? Dress appropriately for every occasion, your clothes and attitude are both representations of yourself. Do you think today’s woman is concerned enough with, or prioritizing learning etiquette and social graces appropriately? No, I do not. I believe that women are applauding nontraditional habits that are hindering the world; such as the loose moral culture. Unfortunately they are being influenced from the media, and developing unrealistic images that they are measuring themselves up to. When young ladies fall victim to what the mass media is portraying for them to follow they are unknowingly contributing to the decline of classy women. And it’s making it harder for us to be taken seriously in social and professional settings. Do you believe there is power in femininity? If so why? I do believe there in power in femininity; femininity is in how you carry yourself. Ladies are both feminine and masculine, it's a balance of the two energies one needs to be balanced and respected, I think women forget that. I believe that a woman who is more feminine will gain the respect of others if done properly and be taken more seriously. Share one beauty secret and one style tip with us that works for you. Pant suits are a must for me, they are a classic staple in my wardrobe. I also believe in having a solid skin care routine for healthy skin, because makeup can only cover so much. How does poise and comfort with punctilio influence confidence? Etiquette gives you the power to represent yourself well, and with that comes comfort. When you are confident it helps you forge solid connections with people by being aware of the subtle details of etiquette in social settings. Overall etiquette will give you a level of comfort to fully express who you are without offending others. Please share with us your favorite quote. Be the change you wish to see in the world. What is one vintage rule of etiquette or decorum that young women can benefit from today? Everything new was once old and always comes back in a different generation. So the old must be appreciated to accept the new.